How I Actually Work
Three core principles that guide every session.
1. We Work With What You Feel
Our work starts in your body—the place where emotions live. Emotions aren't obstacles to bypass; they're data with intention. They're trying to tell you something and move you toward something.
What this means: We get specific. What is this feeling called? Not just "sad"—is it grief, loneliness, shame, resignation? What's it telling you? What is it asking you to do? We slow down and listen to the signal. Your emotions don't just need to be understood; they need to be heard and answered.
Why it matters: When you clarify what you're feeling and what it's asking of you, everything changes. You're no longer fighting yourself but listening to your inner voice. You make choices from clarity instead of confusion.
2. The Relationship Is The Work
I show up human. Authentic. Not professional distance—genuine connection. I offer you a real, boundaried and equal relationship. You are the master of your own experience and I am the curious observer poking at bits that might need attention.
What this means: If something's funny in session, we laugh. If something's hard, we sit with it together. I won't pretend uncertainty away or hide behind expertise. The relationship itself can show you what healthy connection feels like.
Why it matters: Many of our struggles are relational—we don't trust, we people-please, we hide ourselves. When you experience genuine meeting without judgment, you learn something your nervous system can't learn any other way.
3. I Meet Your Brain Where It Is
Your brain learned patterns that made sense at the time. How you react now is shaped by what worked then. I work with those patterns, not against them.
What this means: We notice patterns in how you respond to the world. We trace where they came from—what were they protecting? What were they solving? And we ask: does this still serve you now? If you're neurodivergent, autistic, ADHD, aphantasic, trauma-affected—all of that shapes how your brain works and how we work together. Our work adapts to you and your needs.
Why it matters: Pattern work isn't about pathology. It's about understanding your own survival strategies and deciding consciously whether to keep them, adapt them, or release them. That's genuine autonomy.
What Happens in Sessions
Sessions have structure, but they're not rigid. You arrive. We check in: what's happening in your world right now? We work—which might mean exploring a feeling, naming a pattern, testing a new response, or just being with something that's hard. Near the end, we land: what are you taking away from this? What's one thing you might notice or try before we meet again?
Sessions are your space. You set the pace. You're in control of what we explore and how deep we go.
How This Works
You're a partner in this, not a problem to be solved. I won't prescribe solutions or claim to fix you in six sessions. I'll ask precise questions, help you get clear about what's actually happening, and support *you* doing the real work of change. You'll experience expertise, honesty, and genuine investment in your outcome.